Older Man Vs. Younger Man?
Older Man Vs. Younger Man?
Saturday, 13.01.2007. 1331 hours.
I met a woman about a week back. She's 30, has had 4 kids and her husband is 42. She's rich, lives the life of a charitable 'tai tai' and had had her 2 daughters in America.
I like her. Funny, smart, nice.
Her oldest is 9 years old. Quick calculation would tell you that this means she had her boy at 21. And since conception takes 9 months, she was probably married at 20. Her husband would've been 32. Which means we can safely assume that she either married while having her tertiary education, or right after. We should also be safe to assume that she has never had to do whatever she didn't want to do ever since she was married (at least). For instance, hold down a crappy job. Her much older (and 6 figure earning) husband's wages were enough to cover her expenses.
They're a lovely couple, this pair. The husband is more mellow, more gentle, while his wife is the feisty one.
But I can't imagine doing that. At least, that's what I say now. I'm not sure I want to marry into a household all ready for me. Like I'm filling in a gap. The household runs fine without me, but I'm needed to fill in a niche.
I want someone I can grow with, and grow old with. I want to build and share something with someone. And that something would be bigger and better than both of us apart. You know, the sum is bigger than its parts.
The tapestry we slowly weave together is so heartbreakingly beautiful with all its flaws that the individual threads themselves cannot bear to match.
Okok, maybe I'm a silly romantic sap and I'd sing a different tune a year from now. But for now, I DO know that it's possible. I WANT to believe that it is.
Two matchmaking friends of mine asked me what is the age limitation that I set for myself when it comes to men, and, quick as a whip, I said laughingly: 'Not less than 3 years my junior, and not more than 10 years my senior. That makes that a 14 year allowance. Shouldn't be hard to find a man, no?' (insert cheeky grin here).
They both exchanged a quizzical look and went: 'Why that figure?'
To which I replied: 'Less than 3 years would make me feel like I'm dating jailbait, and the maturity would likely not match. More than 10 would make me feel like the generation gap is too wide a chasm to bridge.'
What I didn't say was that I once dated a guy 14 years my senior. His MCP-ness was so unbearable I was tempted, so many times, to shoot a bullet through his nads. Would have been damn satisfying to do that, too. :P Nothing could be more satisfying than emasculating an I-think-I'm-so-macho idiot of a chauvinist pig.
Saturday, 13.01.2007. 1331 hours.
I met a woman about a week back. She's 30, has had 4 kids and her husband is 42. She's rich, lives the life of a charitable 'tai tai' and had had her 2 daughters in America.
I like her. Funny, smart, nice.
Her oldest is 9 years old. Quick calculation would tell you that this means she had her boy at 21. And since conception takes 9 months, she was probably married at 20. Her husband would've been 32. Which means we can safely assume that she either married while having her tertiary education, or right after. We should also be safe to assume that she has never had to do whatever she didn't want to do ever since she was married (at least). For instance, hold down a crappy job. Her much older (and 6 figure earning) husband's wages were enough to cover her expenses.
They're a lovely couple, this pair. The husband is more mellow, more gentle, while his wife is the feisty one.
But I can't imagine doing that. At least, that's what I say now. I'm not sure I want to marry into a household all ready for me. Like I'm filling in a gap. The household runs fine without me, but I'm needed to fill in a niche.
I want someone I can grow with, and grow old with. I want to build and share something with someone. And that something would be bigger and better than both of us apart. You know, the sum is bigger than its parts.
The tapestry we slowly weave together is so heartbreakingly beautiful with all its flaws that the individual threads themselves cannot bear to match.
Okok, maybe I'm a silly romantic sap and I'd sing a different tune a year from now. But for now, I DO know that it's possible. I WANT to believe that it is.
Two matchmaking friends of mine asked me what is the age limitation that I set for myself when it comes to men, and, quick as a whip, I said laughingly: 'Not less than 3 years my junior, and not more than 10 years my senior. That makes that a 14 year allowance. Shouldn't be hard to find a man, no?' (insert cheeky grin here).
They both exchanged a quizzical look and went: 'Why that figure?'
To which I replied: 'Less than 3 years would make me feel like I'm dating jailbait, and the maturity would likely not match. More than 10 would make me feel like the generation gap is too wide a chasm to bridge.'
What I didn't say was that I once dated a guy 14 years my senior. His MCP-ness was so unbearable I was tempted, so many times, to shoot a bullet through his nads. Would have been damn satisfying to do that, too. :P Nothing could be more satisfying than emasculating an I-think-I'm-so-macho idiot of a chauvinist pig.
1 comment:
A conundrum is wanting a man to be with yet not wanting any emotional attachments(RE:post on Wednesday,10.01.2007. 0704 hours).
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